Success Stories

The Sleep Sense™ Method, created by Dana Obleman in 2003, has already helped thousands of parents just like you teach their children healthy sleep habits. It was my strong belief in Dana’s system that inspired me to become a professional sleep consultant, and I look forward to helping you and your family achieve the same results that my recent clients have been enjoying. Here are some letters from them:


One week ago today I was nursing this little boy to sleep at every nap and waking up 3-5 times night. Not that I don’t love his snuggles and loving Mommy needed a break. 😫 After talking with my pediatrician, getting advice from friends, and thinking what I had already been through with my other two … i knew what I needed to do… i also knew it wasn’t going to be easy.😔 So I recruited some help! Thank you so much @tonjabsleepconsulting for helping TJ and myself work out a plan for our sweet boy 💙!! In one week TJ went from napping only on mommy or in the car to taking at least 3 naps in his crib each day. He went from these crazy night wake-ups to sleeping about 11 hours and only waking to nurse once. 💤 I know this will not be the end of our sleep journey but that goodness for progress! Life in our house definitely has started to settle down now that we are getting some much needed sleep!🙌🏼”
Clare (Alabama)
When I contacted Tonja, I was already desperate. It wasn’t the first time I sought help from sleep consultants, but the first time that the plan actually worked. My 3.5 month old daughter was falling asleep only if I breastfed her and she was only sleeping in my arms. In less than 2 weeks, Tonja helped us (me more than my daughter) reach our goals. Now Luna is falling asleep and sleeping in her crib. Tonja’s dedication and support are more than anyone could expect. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Carmen (Romania)
Our 8mo was still waking up to nurse multiple times at night and we were exhausted when we decided to seek for help and found Tonja. It was literally a life-changing experience. She helped us teach our baby how to self-soothe and go to sleep by himself without any props. And she helped us to stick to the plan, to be consistent and to trust our baby. He’s now sleeping through the night, drinking more milk during the day and making progress with naps. Overall his sleep schedule is much more predictable and consistent…and we all sleep better and are happier!! We’d recommend Tonja to all the new and old parents, she’s professional and really knows what she’s doing. It’s the best investment for your family!! Thank you Tonja!
Mari (Alabama)
I just wanted to say thank you for the sleep tips!!! It’s been 1 week and my 15 month old is FINALLY sleeping in her crib. My husband and I were recommended on IG by a friend & you’ve changed our lives for the better because we can actually get a full nights sleep!! I wish I could hug you through this email for the blessedly rest my family’s  now experiencing. You’re like a fairy sleep godmother we desperately needed.
Latieya (North Carolina)

Tonja is incredibly knowledgeable, understanding, and very generous with her time. She was recommended to us by a friend and we are so thankful. Looking back at our experience we only wish we started this journey sooner. Prior, we read sleep training books on our own but our daughter started waking up during the night around 6 months; we realized we needed more help than any book could offer. It was extremely helpful to have her to talk and email us through the process. She is an expert in her field and knows this technique like the back of her hand. Her method really does work and our daughter has been sleeping 12 hours a night with 1.5 hr naps. We couldn’t ask for better results. Thank you so much, Tonja!

Amanda, Steve and Madison (Idaho)
I definitely recommend Tonja B’s Sleep Consulting. My 9 month old was sleeping terribly waking up around 8+ times and depended on me all night for him to go back to sleep. He would be up every 2 hours or less and needed to be rocked, fed or his soother given to him.  It’s tough the first few nights but totally worth it. Ms. Tonja gave me all the tools and support I needed to teach my son to fall asleep on his own. My son now sleep 11+ hours every night with two good naps during the day!!!! The improvement is amazing!
Melva (New York)
We are so happy we worked with Tonja to get our son to sleep better.  Tonja responded to my emails very quickly and never rushed our phone calls when I needed support.  The training was not an easy process, but was necessary – prior to training our 6 mo old he was being nursed to sleep for every nap and at bedtime and would only nap for 20-30 mins and would wake up at night anywhere from 3-6 times.  Since the training he now takes longer naps, is able to soothe himself to sleep in his crib (yay!) and only wakes once  at night to eat.  Tonja was professional, informative and supportive and we’re grateful we decided to work with her and are happy with the progress our son has made!
Laura O. (Connecticut)
We met Tonja last Friday. I was so exhausted I could barely function. We’ve been trying for a week to transition our daughter from co-sleeping to her own room and crib. After countless sleepless nights, we started to follow Tonja’s schedule Friday night and by night 3 there was such an improvement. My almost 7 month old daughter is now sleeping through the night!!!! It is difficult in the beginning, but if you stick with it, I promise it will all work out, it just may take some time.
Courtney B. (New York)
Tonja is a lifesaver. Honestly, I was terrified of starting sleep training, but felt comfortable right from the start with Tonja. She helped us so much, especially on night one. We are grateful for her help!
Nicole B. (New York)
I want to take this opportunity to thank Ms. Tonja B for all her help in getting my 13 month old to sleep through the night. I was tired, frustrated, a co-sleeper and I honestly felt as if I had went through every avenue possible to get him to sleep. He would wake up every three hours and I would rush in there to get him. Tonja B has great advice, techniques, tools and patience to help me get my love to sleep. Thank you Tonja B, you are worth every penny.
Jalisa W. (New York)
Jade has never been a good sleeper. We feel like we tried everything!!!! My good friend suggested a sleep coach and gave me Tonja’s information. I am SO glad we contacted her!!! Her sleep plan was gentle and slow paced. Jade fell right into the schedule Tonja made for her and within 3 nights was putting herself to sleep AND sleeping all night long!!!!
Tonja completely changed our lives. Jade is more active, eats better and is a happier little girl!!!!
Katie D. (Alaska)

We’re first time parents and to a late-term preemie, so figuring out how to get our guy to sleep let alone sleep in his crib was a struggle. When we contacted Tonja, our guy was 6 months, co-sleeping with us and nursing through the night. In the months leading up we had attempted every night to put him to sleep in his crib which ultimately resulted in him back in bed with us at some point. No one was getting much sleep and we were all exhausted, mentally and physically. Naps during the day were not much better, our little guy would only take one 30 minute nap the whole day! We had finally had enough and reached out to Tonja for help. The first four nights were a little rough, but by night five he was sleeping through the night! To say we are impressed is an understatement! Naps took about five and a half weeks for our guy to grasp, but that was to be expected considering he started with little to no napping. Hiring Tonja to help us teach our son to sleep has been one of the best decisions we have made since becoming parents! We cannot even imagine being where we were at months ago, all sleep deprived and trying to make it through each day with so much exhaustion.

Now at eight months old he has a great routine and sleeps like a champ! He’ll sleep anywhere from 10 to 12 hours a night with two naps during the day. The first nap is about an hour and a half to two hours and the second is about an hour to an hour and a half! Looking back there is no way I would ever believe this is our schedule since he would never sleep and we credit Tonja with this success! Thank you!

Alta E. (New York)



When we first talked to Tonja it seemed like half of our lives consisted of trying to get our 23-month-old daughter to sleep. We have three very young children, but our middle one (nicknamed “the Princess”) seemed to want to be treated like an only child, demanding (and getting) hours of attention while we tried and failed to get her to sleep. Our daughter wouldn’t sleep without being held, and would wake up and become inconsolable if we dared to leave her alone. Sometimes she’d even wake up when a hapless adult snuck out to use the bathroom. When she was FINALLY asleep (usually in our bed, usually past 10pm), she’d twist and turn enough to wake up any other occupant. Considering that this little girl also has a twin brother, plus a five-month-old baby sister who ALSO didn’t sleep well and was cranky and needy during the day, the situation became unbearable for all of us.

I really didn’t think Tonja could help. No offense to Tonja, but our little princess is SO stubborn that I thought she’d be the kid who finally broke the sleep consultancy business for good, and that once they’d dealt with her all the sleep consultants in the world would choose to pursue other careers. We only went in because we were desperate. And I’m happy to say I was wrong! Within a week of starting the program, our older daughter was sleeping for almost twelve hours every night and napping for two or three hours during the day. Not only that, but there was no more fighting. None. Our princess actually became HAPPY to go to bed, and several times has actually asked to go to bed early! She snuggles down in her crib with her toy and goes down without a fuss, and actually sleeps longer now than her twin brother, who we always considered a good sleeper!

We were so impressed with Tonja that we also hired her to do a sleep plan for our younger daughter. Because this baby was only five months old and still nursing, I didn’t have high hopes for her, but she is now sleeping and napping well, and most of her daytime crankiness and excessive clinginess (which I now realize was caused by tiredness) has gone away. I can now spend time with my spouse, study, and work in the evening after the kids are in bed. It is like having an entirely new life!

Charlotte C. (New York)


My 9 month old daughter had probably slept through the night twice in her life so I was pretty sure that she was beyond any kind of sleep training. I honestly wasn’t sure this program would work for her, and I knew I wasn’t going to be able to let her cry it out, but a friend set up a phone call with Tonja and she was sure she could help. And she was absolutely right!!

My daughter takes two great naps a day and sleeps for 11-12 hours straight at night!! This has literally changed our lives for the better! I’m not short fused with my husband and 2 year old all the time and I don’t need 4 cups of coffee a day just to survive! My daughter is happy and rested and comfortable putting herself to sleep!

I would definitely recommend working with Tonja if your child has a sleep problem. She was very attentive to my questions or concerns and made sure we kept with the program. She was always reachable and I felt like she was really supporting me the whole way. She was just as concerned with my daughter sleeping (and all of us) as I was!

Susan D. (Kansas)



I’m not going to lie to you. I was a TOTAL skeptic. However I was also just as desperate as I was skeptical so I figured given this lady a call couldn’t possibly hurt anymore than the agony I had endured for weeks on end with my two small children. After being a stay home mom that was trying to transition back into work I had a major issue with my kids, they wouldn’t go to sleep!

Okay so maybe that was a bit of a stretch but not by much. We have a 1 year old and a two year old (yeah not sure why we were in such a rush but don’t judge).  To be honest I prided myself on being the sleep “specialist” of my online mommy group via Facebook (La Mocha Mommy) and I gave out my personal tips on putting babies to sleep for the night. However my two cents just wasn’t hitting no ‘mo like Whitney albums in the 2000’s. You know it just wasn’t the same (rest in peace Whitney, with all due respect).

By this time my two year old was at the beginning stages of potty training and thought he needed to climb into bed with mommy and daddy for moral support instead of going to the bathroom. My one year old was still waking up a few times a night for a bottle and sneaky way to steal cuddle time with mommy.

While, both of these gestures were “thoughtful” to say the least it was absolutely  draining! Walking the two year old back down the hall from our bed to his, only to wake up in between the hours to fix the 1 year old a bottle who truly never even finished the bottles. He would barely take a few sips and go back to bed until the next time he wanted TLC.

Then came Tonja! She was a new addition to our group and was talking about this crazy idea of getting your child to sleep 12 hours a night. I was like psssssh, yeah right! Wait..really?

She ended up doing a free web stream in the group and gave a lot of great tips. Then I was like nah? This won’t work for me, my boys are rough around the edges. Then came the night when I got exactly 2 hours of sleep and had to be up by 5 am. I finally stopped treating Tonja’s sleeping consulting offer like that free 5 day gym membership flyer you get in the mail and gave her a call.

MY ENTIRE LIFE CHANGED! I could just kick myself for all the days that I overlooked it. Tonja B. Sleep consulting program was able to design a sleep program that worked well for my schedule and allowed me to get some much needed rest and relaxation.

Tonja got my 2 year old sleeping solely and soundly alone in his own bed EVERY NIGHT with no interruptions. He has done well with his potty training so he wakes up to tinkle and climbs right back into his own bed! Not to mention that my 1 year old was only “prompt dependent” (a term I learned from Tonja) and didn’t really needed a bottle at all! Yep, she got my baby off the bottle! (I wonder if she could help an uncle of my with that same problem.).

Nevertheless, this was a service well worth it! If you have ever consulted with a duala for birth or a breast feeding specialist to help with those small yet urgent kinky’s in the early stages of motherhood, I would definitely add a sleep consultant to the list because the benefits are something money just can’t buy so don’t sleep on the idea of getting a professional to help you get baby to sleep. It’s one of the BEST decisions I have ever made as a mother!

LaCheryl R. (Texas)



I have an 18-month-old daughter, and to say her sleep habits have been sporadic since day one is an understatement!

She was a typical newborn, waking every couple of hours for the first few months, then all of a sudden at around 4 months she made it through a few nights without any wakeups at all.  I was over here thinking “Wow, look at us! A 4-month-old sleeping through the night! How lucky are we?”

Well, I found out shortly afterwards those restful nights were to become fewer and further between as she started teething and getting ear infections.  Getting her to bed was a challenge. She wanted to be held and rocked constantly, and the moment I put her in the crib she woke up screaming.  I repeated the process several times during the night, sometimes for hours at a time – holding and rocking her, giving her a bottle, and was only able to leave her in her crib after she had reached a deep, deep sleep.  Her lack of sleep at night caused her to be groggy and moody, and she constantly napped at random times during the day.

We tried letting her cry, that didn’t work. We brought her into bed with us a few times – definitely a mistake.  I reached a point where I felt completely helpless. I had never been so exhausted and it was really starting to affect my mood and my concentration at work.  Her father and I began taking shifts – he stayed up with her until she fell asleep, usually around 10PM, and I went to bed around 8PM to catch up on sleep before taking night shift.

This went on for months until we began sleep training.

Tonja has been a huge support to us through this process.  A few words to describe her are professional, knowledgeable and relatable.  I had complete confidence that her methods would work for us so I committed wholeheartedly and together we’ve succeeded!  Our daughter now goes to bed at the same time every night, sleeps through the night and wakes up happy every morning.  I’ve seen so many positive changes in her since the training, and I know it’s because she is getting the sleep she needs – and FINALLY so are we!

It’s 7:00 PM and baby is in bed – feels great! CHEERS!

Thanks Tonja!!!


Ashley C. (New York)



In addition, I’ve also included some letters written in by parents who have used Dana’s Sleep Sense™ Method in their homes so that you can see what they had to say:

Dear Dana,

I just want to share that I am THRILLED with your program! We are now into the 2nd month and even in the very beginning he is sleeping 11-12+ hours straight through the night!

He has learned to put himself back to sleep and we never thought that would happen, it has been simply amazing! We used to be the parents who got no sleep, now our friends are jealous that he sleeps so many hours through the night and their child doesn’t!I brag to EVERYONE about how well he sleeps and that we have a life again!

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I never dreamed I would sleep through the night for 8 hours again! You are awesome!

– Stephanie

Dear Dana,

I purchased Sleep Sense A few weeks ago and I am absolutely satisfied. The change was INSTANT, the same night I started reading the book was the night he started sleeping better and he keeps improving.

My wife and I are also sleeping better and we a better parents for it as we are able to enjoy our new son. Thank you for all your help. I will definitely recommend this system to any new parents

From 2 proud and well rested parents (and one cute little boy)

– Jeff, Jodie & Jacob Carroll


Why didn’t we try this sooner?! As we speak he is sound asleep in his crib – and has been since 7.15 pm. We are so pleased to get the evenings to ourselves again, and Tinius – who has always been a very happy boy – is even more happy now. It is now obvious to us that he didn’t get enough sleep before and that our difficulties getting him to sleep in the evenings were due to the fact that he was overly tired. Now we follow your advise on bedtime routines and everything else we learned from the sleep Sense program and are happy to say that your success rate is still 100% :-).

– Karianne, Jarle and Tinius Wanggaard


I would like to say a huge ‘Thank You’ to you. Your system is well explained and well researched and has worked wonders in our house. It is like Hana is saying ‘Thank You Mammy – i really needed this’, she is so happy since we began. We tell her it is ‘Sleepy Girl Time’ she knows what that means now and tucks her head into her blankey when we say it to her, ready for bed. She is so clever. We are going to stick to it for her sake and like the other parents you mentioned we are delighted with the time together we have now.

So once again, Thank You – keep doing what you are doing,

– Fiona O’Connor Kildare, Ireland

Dear Dana,

I wanted to thank you for your wonderful manual. I have a baby girl of a year and a half who was very active during the day and was having problems sleeping through the night. Thanks to your program she’s sleeping all night, and though she sometimes wakes up, it is for very little time and she goes back to sleep on her own.

It’s been a blessing for me and my husband, but of course also for her, since she wakes up very happy and goes about her day happier than ever and as active as always, too. Again, congratulations on your new baby girl and thank you for your wonderful program. Wish you all the best all the way from San Juan, Puerto Rico.

– Miredly Ramos

Hi Dana,

It is 10 to 7 on this lovely Spring evening and Joshua is sleeping soundly in his cot as he did last night and the night before for 10-12 hours. He always slept well to begin with but when he was unwell and the teething started it all went wrong. We did what we thought was the right thing to do at the time but soon realized that Joshua had developed a whole new routine – one that involved not going to sleep at night and then waking up several times a night for a bottle!!

Thankfully, your Sleepsense plan put us all back on track and we hopefully will never look back.

Many thanks again and good luck in all that you do.

– Toni Taylor

Hi Dana,

Since getting onto your sleep sense program, Beau has been an angel. It was hard going for about a week or two when we first started, but now he goes to bed without hesitation and sleeps well through the night. It was a blessing to my husband and I.

We have regained our lives- slightly anyway and are back in the land of the living because of the sleep we now get in the night and a bit of a rest in the day. Thanks for your help. i have also put so many friends onto the program too and they all rave about it.

– Trev and Beau


I wanted to thank you for the Sleep Sense program. Things have been hectic at our house (contractors all over the place doing loud work during the day), so naptime has been challenging. But we implemented some things we learned from the Sleep Sense program at bedtime, and what a difference!!!

We’re only on the fourth night, but already Megan has developed her own self-soothing techniques, falling asleep on her own albeit with some crying, waking only once to eat during the night and putting herself back to sleep on her own with her other nightwakings.

My husband and I are so happy to have a long stretch of sleep again! Thank you so much. We still have some work to do regarding naps, but we’ll get there. Thanks again and take care.

– Christy Murra


I followed all of your instructions and my 2-year old was sleeping through the night (in his own room) in less than a week. The first couple of days were terrible. He would come into our room about 15 times per night. He also threw terrible tantrums which included emptying the contents of his dressers and removing his mattress from his bed!

However, by Day 3 we started seeing positive progress. I don’t have to tell you what a difference it has made in our household. We are all sleeping again and my son’s overall disposition has improved. He was always a good boy but because he was tired, he would act out at times. I am happy to report that he has stopped throwing tantrums entirely and he seems generally happier and more secure.

I have referred you to six friends and I will continue to refer you to others having sleep issues. THANK YOU!!!!!!!

– Christie O’Toole


I cannot thank you enough for giving me the gift of sleep! Two days before my son turned 9 months old, I was at my wits end and felt like I was on the verge of a breakdown. I had not had more than 4 hours straight of sleep in a year, and was truly exhausted. It affected my home life, my relationships with friends, and especially the quality of my work at my job.

My son had never slept more than 5 or 6 hours straight, but at 6 months old he began to wake up every 3-4 hours. I honestly thought he was just hungry, but didn’t realize I was setting him and myself up for sleep failures. Well, he is now 9 months old. As of last night, which was night # 8, on your sleep program, Christian slept for 10 1/2 hours straight! He woke up one time, cried for about 30 seconds, and was back asleep before I could even open my eyes to check the time. By night 3, he was sleeping 9 hours, which was amazing to me. Because I was so accustomed to waking up throughout the night, I can’t even sleep past 4:30 am now, but I know that it will take some time for my body to realize that it can truly rest again.

Thank you for giving me my me-time back in the evenings, for giving me sleep back at night, and for teaching me how to be a better parent. We are all much happier now, and I am even back to working out in the mornings while Christian sleeps. At this point, I am telling EVERY parent that I know about your program. It was well worth every cent and more! God bless you!

– Gailda Davis

Hi Dana,

Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!!!!!!!!

I just had my first full night of sleep in 5 1/12 months. It was the third night of implementing the program and she slept from 7:00 to 5:00 and went back down until 7:00. I am so happy I woke up crying:) Thanks again! You are a life saver

– Elyce, Kevin, and Jaidyn Battle

Dear Dana,

THANK YOU SO MUCH! Your sleep programme is fantastic and truly works! Last night was our 6th night and things are going brilliantly well! I really can’t thank you enough.

Joel slept through on the 3rd night, had a bit of a blip on the 4th night, but I think it was because he had a dirty nappy and was uncomfortable but 5th and 6th nights…straight through! Thank you

– Carolyn

Hi Dana,

You are a life saver!!!! Within 1,5 weeks of starting your program, Kaide is going down at 7:30 with no arguments, and he is managing to put himself back to sleep within 10 minutes, he is also having two nice sleeps in the day. I am a totally different person, and our relationship has improved tenfold.

After having just accepted that this was to be my lot in life, I had resigned myself to the fact that I would have to survive on between 3 and 5 hours sleep a night. I have my own business, which means if I loaf, I don’t get paid, so sleeping in the day is out of the question. Kaide is with me all day and would only sleep for 30 minutes once a day, so as you can imagine, I could not function to full capacity at all.

We got advice from everyone, and tried everything, but all people could say was, “you made your bed, now lie in it.” Everyone knew the problem, but no-one could give us a solution, even the doctors. That is until I stumbled upon your website. You made it so easy.

Our history with Kaide was the cause of the problem. When he was born, his Dad and I were building a lodge in the Kruger National Park. Seeing as the house we were in was the only accommodation at the time, we had to share it with builders, plumbers, head office staff etc etc, with up to 14 people sleeping in a three bedroom house with us and our 6 week old baby.

Kaide also had colic, and as I was the only one who never had to do heavy work, it was my duty to keep the little guy quiet when he awoke in pain, so everyone else could get a decent nights sleep. I would sit up all night with him to keep him quiet, and pass out at about 5am. During the day he would only sleep for 6 minutes at a time, so there was no time for me to sleep then either. As he got older we found that if he went down before 8pm he would wake at 9:30, and would not go back down until 12:00. If we put him down at 9pm, he would sleep till 8am, but still he awoke at least 5 times a night and needed me.

Having become so accustomed to rocking and shushing him back to sleep, when he awoke in the night, that is exactly what I would do. Not realizing that this was not actually what was expected of me, that my child would not despise me, or worse end up with a low IQ from screaming. I definitely suffered with depression and only now can I see how badly. I was starting to lose it, and Kaide and I were not enjoying one another at all. Your program has given us back our lives, and has recreated that special bond that I lost with my child.

Thank you so much

– Gary, Candice and Kaide

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